Understanding Survival Mode: Your life depends on it
Janet Namdari • March 14, 2025

Your life depends on it.


One thing’s for sure and usually obvious to the person who is stuck in survival mode…


There’s not a lot of JOY being felt.


Likely, there’s also not a lot of hope or a sense of overall satisfaction in their life, either. 


When we’re stuck in survival mode, it’s an indicator of where we’re at in our Autonomic Nervous System (ANS). 


Typically, it’s that we’re hanging out a lot in the fight/flight zone.


We’re operating on auto pilot moving from one task to the next…


We may find ourselves in an oppositional space (fight).


And/or we may be trying to get away from something (flight).


When we find ourselves hanging out in this zone (and it’s not that we’re experiencing a true/real emergency and need to fight/flee for our safety), it means we’re experiencing emotional dysregulation


Simply put, we're not hanging out much (if at all) in the ventral vagal/parasympathetic zone of our ANS...


That is, we're generally not feeling settled, hopeful, grounded, calm, joyful, rested, connected to others, and/or healthy, etc., etc. (the list goes on)


The COST: feeling anxious, fearful, worried, panicked, irritated, and/or rage. Decreased immune response, digestion, oxygen to vital organs, etc. Increased blood pressure/heart rate and blood clotting. 


The GOAL: to move out of dysregulation and into emotional regulation.


One of my responsibilities as a personal coach is to help clients move from living in survival mode to living life in a more emotionally regulated state…


So that they can experience more joy, hope, health, vitality…and an overall feeling of satisfaction in their lives. 


Want in on this life-changing opportunity?


Simplyschedule your complimentary 30 minute call using the button below. 


Let’s do this!!!


With loving-kindness,

Janet


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