A personal example of knowing that I'm on the right track
I realized at 7:50 that beach camp didn’t start at 10 like I thought, but rather at 9.
And we needed to be in the car 45 minutes prior to that to get there in time…
So, I naturally kicked it into high gear…
Making lunches and doing all the things - rushing around barking orders at the kids to do this and that to get themselves ready…
My cortisol levels rising…
And then my six-year old approaches me with a calm, clear voice and says: “I’m feeling overwhelmed…because you’re talking like that.”
This utterance stopped me in my tracks.
‘WOW,’ I thought. This little person so succinctly and confidently named how she felt and then without skipping a beat backed it up with an observation about what was contributing to her feeling of overwhelm.
First and foremost, I felt SO proud of her for identifying and naming how she was feeling in that moment, without prompting.
And furthermore, she had the awareness about what was contributing to the feeling.
YES!!!
And also in this moment, I realized I, too, was feeling overwhelmed. And so I made the necessary adjustments to help myself feel better so that I could do better.
The process of Identifying and naming feelings in ourselves (and others) is an ongoing project, practiced time and time again…
My kids are reminded about how the things people say and do affect how we feel…
They practice emotional intelligence skills with me, with other trusted adults, and when they’re in Friendship Frogs (the in-person social-emotional learning class I facilitate).
I also help parents flex their emotional intelligence muscles when they participate in my classes/program and/or are on the receiving end of coaching.
Because this is what’s at the very foundation of healthy choices and healthy relationships.
If you would like help with raising emotionally intelligent child(ren) and/or want help with working on your own emotional intelligence, I urge you to reach out to me via email at janet@lovingkindnessparenting.com or by scheduling your complimentary consultation call using the button below.
With loving-kindness,
Janet
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